KEEPING IT LIT

Mission Driven Marriage Transformation

At Keeping It Lit, we believe every couple is just one intentional decision away from a phenomenal marriage—a marriage where both spouses feel deeply valued, genuinely understood, and unconditionally loved.

Founded by Debra and Jabari Steward, Marriage Transformational Architects and creators of the Keeping It Lit Signature Framework for Marriage Transformation, we serve purpose-driven Christian couples who are ready to move beyond "just fine" and cultivate something truly phenomenal.

Through faith-based guidance, Biblical truth, and practical tools, we equip couples to deepen their spiritual connection, communicate with love and clarity, and build a marriage rooted in purpose. Our personalized coaching experiences and dynamic enrichment events are designed to help couples reconnect, rediscover joy, and walk boldly in the calling of marriage.

This is more than coaching. It’s a Spirit-led journey to the phenomenal marriage God desires for you.

The Root Cause of Marital Struggles

Beneath the surface of every marital struggle, there is one underlying cause. One word that holds the key to understanding it all: Disconnect. Disconnect from God and disconnect from each other. This breakdown erodes emotional, physical, and spiritual connection, leading to feelings of isolation, frustration, and misunderstandings.

The Impact of Marital Disconnect

Marital disconnect is the gradual, often unnoticed, breakdown of emotional, physical, and spiritual connection between spouses. It’s the growing sense of being unseen, unheard, and misunderstood. Day by day, conversations become surface-level, affection fades, and the bond that once brought two people together begins to feel distant and strained. Over time, unresolved frustrations turn into resentment, and the relationship becomes a routine rather than a source of joy and connection. Without intervention, this cycle leaves both partners feeling trapped in silence and loneliness, placing the marriage at risk of falling apart.

Our Purpose-Driven Solution

Keeping It Lit Signature Framework

At Keeping It Lit, we offer more than just solutions—we provide a Signature Framework rooted in a holistic approach to marriage transformation. This isn’t a one-size-fits-all method; it’s a powerful, proven system that addresses marital disconnect from every angle—emotionally, spiritually, and relationally—guiding couples on a journey of renewal and lasting fulfillment.

Our Signature Framework is built on four essential pillars:

Spiritual Connection

Fortifying the spiritual bond with God and each other.

“…Without me, you can’t do anything..”

- John 15:5 (CEB)

Selflessness and Service

Learning to serve one another with Christ-like humility.

"...be humble toward one another, always considering others better than yourselves."

- Philippians 2:3-4 (GNT)

Communication in Love

Building communication that fosters love, trust, and understanding.

"Kind words bring life..."

- Proverbs 15:4(GNT)

"If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense."

-Matthew 18:15(NLT)

Forgiveness and Grace

Cultivating the ability to forgive and offer grace in every circumstance.

“…be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God has forgiven you…”

- Ephesians 4:32 (TLB)

We walk alongside couples who are ready to elevate—not just their connection, but their calling. Our Signature Framework isn’t a set of lessons—it’s a lifestyle. This isn’t about repair.
It’s about refinement. Step into what’s possible—on purpose, by design, and together.

Your Marriage Transformation

We believe your marriage isn’t meant to be just fine—it’s meant to be phenomenal. A marriage that’s deeply connected, filled with excitement, and rooted in purpose. With the right tools, rhythms, and perspective, that possibility becomes your new reality—one intentional day at a time.

Through our Signature Framework and Christ-centered guidance, you’ll gain the clarity, confidence, and spiritual foundation to nurture a marriage that reflects the full beauty of God’s design: Where love is intentional, intimacy is rich, and every season is marked by meaning. This is about cultivating a marriage that feels just as extraordinary on the inside as it looks on the outside. A phenomenal marriage—rooted in Christ, energized by purpose, and built to last. And it’s already within reach.

Let’s build it—together.